If You Can Keep From Preaching, Do It!

One day, I had a conversation with a friend who was seeking to discern whether the Lord was calling him to pastoral or pulpit ministry. As he discussed it with me, he noted that he had mentioned this matter to me several times before without comment from me. He was right. I hadn’t responded. And I sensed that he was waiting on a response this time.

So I prayed an emergency prayer to God about what to say. And what came to my mind is what my father said to me some twenty years ago about whether I should continue in the ministry: “If you can keep from preaching, do it.”

I was about fifteen years old. And my father had given me the opportunity to preach his 11 AM service. I remember two things about that sermon.

It was the hardest I had ever worked on a sermon.

It was also the first time I received direct criticism about my preaching. First from my dad. As he made his pastoral remarks, he reminded the congregation of our afternoon fellowship with a sister church. He informed them (and me) that I would be preaching the afternoon service. He then promised that I would not preach that long in the afternoon service. This was his only comment about my sermon. Ouch. Right after service, one of my dad’s associates was first to greet me. He told me how “long-winded” I had become (a polite term used for those who speak too long, I guess). Double-ouch. Then, as I sat in my dad’s study after service, my sister ran in to kiss my cheek. She said she would see me in the next service, and apologized for rushing out, but she was in a hurry because I had preached so long. Triple-ouch. And strike three.

In comparison to the criticisms I have received about my preaching in later years, this was nothing. Absolutely nothing. But these remarks knocked me off my feet that day. And though I was able to preach that afternoon service, I was swallowed up in a black hole of discouragement the next several days. I couldn’t eat or sleep. And I would stay up at night, reading, praying, and crying.

One of those nights, my father came into the front room and heard me crying. He demanded to know what was wrong. I told him about what happened and how I felt about it. And I concluded that I didn’t know if I wanted to preach any more.

When I finished my rant, my father said he understood and that he would not sit up with me all night. “The only advice I’ll give you is this,” he said as he got up to head back to bed. “If you can keep from preaching, do it.”


He continued, “If preaching is something that you can get into and out of when you want to, it’s a sign that the Lord did not really call you. So if you can choose whether you are going to preach or not, I recommend that you don’t preach.”

That was all he said. He then turned and disappeared into the darkness of the hallway as he went back to his room.

I was angry at how seemingly unconcerned my father was. I was also surprised at how his advice (or non-advice) was exactly what I needed to hear. By the Lord’s gracious help, I was able to pull myself together. And I continued to preach. And I am still preaching more than  twenty years later, to the glory of God.

By the look on my friend’s face, I am not sure he found my father’s advice to be very helpful. But it definitely helped me. Again.

As I wrestle with frustrations over my need to grow as a preacher, and as I face the various, inevitable challenges of my pastoral assignment, I need to be reminded that my calling is not my choice.

I keep preaching because I do not have a choice. And I pray that I will never have a choice in the matter. May the Lord gracious choose to continue to use me to herald the word of God and the testimony of Jesus Christ.

“For if I preach the gospel, that gives me no ground for boasting. For necessity is laid upon me. Woe to me if I do not preach the gospel!” – 1 Corinthians 9:16 (ESV)

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17 thoughts on “If You Can Keep From Preaching, Do It!

  1. I had not logged on to your blog in a while, so i decided to go through the back log- “thank you for sharing with us what your father shared with you! it was exactly what i needed at this particular point in my life”
    God bless you man of God

  2. Pastor Charles,
    The advice your Father gave you when you were a teen and you were away from home preaching a revival.” Be a man and preach” was very profound it takes a Person of God to preach the unadulterated Word” of God. When you shared this advice with us at Zion Hope, my thoughts were your Father knew all the time you were God’s preacher Man. There are many in Shiloh and across this city that loves you and your family. I will continue in prayer for I know there is much power in Communicating with God.

  3. Dear Pastor, What great advice from a great dad. Yes, you are doing what you are supposed to be doing and that is to preach and teach the word so all can understand and you are doing this well. I know in my heart that God brought you to Shiloh beause this is where he wanted you to be and because the people here needed a pastor. this was not your choosing; but you followed his orders and here we are today and being blessed in a tremendous way. Thank you for your energy in the word and your willingness to give us God’s best.

  4. H.B. I never met your father, but it sounds like he was a no-none-sense man of God. He sound like my former pastor (Hardy N. Petty).

    That is the second best advice I have ever heard. Preaching is not for the faint of heart, but the humble in spirit. One has to be teachable in this thing called preaching. “Iron sharpens Iron,” (Proverb 27:17.

  5. After last night’s sermon, I am even more glad….gladder?…that you had no choice but to preach…YES!


  6. HB, I am so glad the choice wasn’t yours. Thanks Be to God!

    P.S. I used to think you were “long winded” when I first attended MSMBC, but I didn’t know better 🙂

  7. What a wonderful message from a father…and so true, because we can run from what we are called to do but we can not hide…I learned that the hard way…had many careers but when I came to it, I knew, and then I struggled (struggle) but, would not change a thing…Pastor C, you were truly blessed to have such a wise, loving father, which makes your children equally blessed!


  8. HB, I am less of a man, preacher and pastor because I never had the opportunity to meet Dr. HB Charles Sr. But with all of the things that you share with us that he has shared with you, he has been a blessing to my life and ministry. Thanks again for opening up your memory bank and pouring out jewels of wisdom from a blessed man.