Coming Home to a Cold Reality

As I was making my way to my connecting flight home this morning, my phone rang. It was Crystal. She was overwhelmed as she watched the movers pack and load up our possessions to transport them to Jacksonville. I didn’t know what to say. So I prayed. And I recommended that Crystal go out for a couple of hours, so that she wouldn’t have to watch them moving our things out.

I arrived home several hours ago, with a message to pick up a car rental. Another does of reality. Our cars are gone and on their way to Jacksonville.

When I arrived home, I walked into an empty house. My mind went back to the day we first saw this house, and the rather large family that occupied it. I also remembered moving into this house as first-time homeowners. It was a good, special time for us.

Seeing it empty again was strange. Same house. But in many ways its so different. It has the feel of the place that has been home to us for more than four years. Yet it feels so empty. It is empty. Literally. Another dose of reality.

There are many memories here.

The competing emotions that I am having right now have left me numb.

Please continue to remember me and my family in your prayers during these days of transition.

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20 thoughts on “Coming Home to a Cold Reality

  1. I am also praying for you and the family. May your transition be a smooth one especially for the children.

    Be blessed

  2. Hi Pastor H.B.,
    This blog is truly reality. When I came to see Crystal on saturday…the house was empty. It seemed so unreal…we are really gonna miss ya’ll. Nicholas is already planning next summer.
    I want to thank you and Crystal for so much. You all are such a great example for others. As Christians, parents, and just individuals. Thank you for letting us share in your ministry, your home, and for your prayers. Thank you for letting us have a relationship with your sweet and smart children. Shiloh is truly BLESSED to have you all!!! We will truly miss you guys. Crystal is such a blessing to talk to and be around. Many women can learn so much from her. We will continue to pray for you. Please do the same for us.
    Just let us know how we can order your new sermons. Your preaching will truly be missed in Los Angeles!!! God bless you and the family. Thanks again for EVERYTHING.

  3. I can only imagine the mixed emotions. I am praying for you, Crystal and the kids. We love you guys and anticapte the new possibilities awaiting at your new home. By the way – I echo Lance’s sentiment about the books. But get this – I will pay for the postage if you give them to ME.

  4. Crystal: It is never easy to relocate; especially with 3 small children and leaving your family across country. You cannot replace family members; but you can add new family members. Shiloh is looking forward to welcoming you as our new “first lady” and becoming your extended family. Anything you need, just ask. God bless!

  5. One day at a time Sweet Jesus, is all I am asking for Pastor Charles and his family.

    There is no doubt in my mind love will come from Shiloh.
    The hardest part is having to leave your family and the place you known as Home. I understand your emotions, and it’s ok.

    Take it One Day at a time, just one day at a time.

    Much Blessings

  6. Man I pray for you and Crystal in this time of transition.Florida’s gain is California’s loss.H.B. we who know you are so proud of you.Keep your head up and doing what the Lord has called you to do.Words cannot express how far the Lord is going to take you. God bless you and your family.
    Love you all.

  7. The members of Shiloh has seen we are getting a Pastor called,annoited,empowered and sent by the Holy Spirit. In His short time with us he has shown His love and compassion for the congregation. Shiloh is a great church that will show the same love and compassion for Crystal,HB3Natalie and Hailey.Pastor Charles has shown us he is a man after God’s own heart. Crystal, continue to trust in the Lord. He will take care of you.Shiloh will love you. God has already prepared you another beautiful home filled with new and wonderful memories.A praying Shilite.

  8. Pstor Charles and Crystal,
    I have a dear friend whose husband has been a Pastor over 40 years. He has told us how difficult it was for his wife (my dearest friend) to leave her home in the central portion of the country to move to Jacksonville. He told us she had a request during the transition. She requested a house that was large enough to accomodate their adult children, if they decided to ever come home. I say to Crystal, think of something you would desire after you arrive in Jacksonville that would be a great and exciting experience.My friend has now been in Florida over 20 years now, and I have never heard her express any regrets. I am praying the same for your family.There is a lot of love waiting at Shiloh.

  9. HB,
    I’m praying for you and your family. While I have no frame of reference for your situation, when I face difficult times I remember a message you preached..Isa 40 “God will Give you stength”…fly…run…are walk…but He will see you through.


  10. May God shine his light upon you.

    May the Love of God dwell in your spirit.

    May God give you comfort.

    May your transition be smooth.

    May God blessings be upon your entire family.

    God Bless.

  11. I can relate to Crystal and how she is feeling. I’ve gone through the relocation process myself at one point in my life, where I had to leave behind all my love ones, going to a city 900 miles away, where I knew no one. It was hard in the beginning and if it wasn’t for prayer and a telephone, I think I would have lost it.

    The difference between our relocations is the fact that you and Crystal will have each other and your beautiful children to help with your transition and not to mention, the Shiloh Metropolitan Baptist Church family and MSMBC family praying for you all.

    Bless you and your family and I pray safe travels for you all.

  12. Wow, thanks for the heads up. I will soon be relocating as well and I am sure I will be going through the same emotional feelings. But this blog has warned me of what is to come.

    Thanks for the heads up.

  13. HB please relate to Crystal that Penny and I are both praying for each of you during this period of transition.

    By the way, if there happens to be any books that have been left behind, I want them before anybody else gets their greasy hands on them.(LOL) Grace and Peace my friend.


  14. I hope this finds you and your family in the very best of health and spirit. It goes without saying that all of you are in my prayers. I can only imagine how you and Crystal must feel. For the first time in a long time I can honestly say that I don’t know what to say. I can only pray.

  15. Wow. I don’t what Crystal is feeling but I do know just the thought of the you guys leaving really breaks my Heart!!!. I realize today that we only two more Sundays with you guys and then your gone that alone overwhelmed me. I love you guys so much and I am really going to miss you all. I really hope and pray that Shiloh knows who and what they are getting and that they love and take care of you all. Love Auntie BB

  16. Pastor, I can certainly relate to what you and Crystal are feeling. I too went through the same emotions when I relocated from California. It’s a very overwehlming process. You had the best response, PRAYER! My prayers and thoughts are with you and family during this emotional, overwhelming and exciting time. Safe travels to JAX.

    As always be Blessed!